Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work

Jessica Fern

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Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work

Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work

Jessica Fern

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A practical, accessible primer on using parts work to transform shame and self-criticism to authenticity and integrity.

Trauma, attachment wounds and external criticism can leave us battling a sense of shame and inadequacy that can keep us from thriving personally and in relationships. In Transforming the Shame Triangle, integrative therapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley use a synthesis of Internal Family Systems and Narrative Process to identify the three parts that they see as the greatest barriers to achieving the life we want.

The Inner Critic, Shame and the Escaper are players in an internalized drama triangle, acting as perpetrator, victim and rescuer. Together, they create the Shame Triangle, which can trap us in ineffective survival strategies that prevent us from embracing and expressing our true selves.

Through practical exercises and accessible explanations, readers are guided to shift from a state of self-critique to one of self-support--transforming the Shame Triangle to a love triangle. Using parts work, Fern and Cooley open a path to healing and transformation, building a foundation of authenticity and integrity in self and connections, and ultimately creating a more fulfilling life.

Critical Reviews

"A fresh, insightful take on one of our slipperiest emotions that offers readers workable pathways forward."

-- "Kirkus" (9/25/2025 12:00:00 AM)

Publishing Information

Publisher: Thornapple Press
Pub date: 2025-10-31
Length: 336 pages

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