Second Life: Having a Child in the Digital Age
Second Life: Having a Child in the Digital Age
Second Life: Having a Child in the Digital Age
Description
Description
"Second Life is a tender, perceptive account of pregnancy and early motherhood--and a stylish confrontation with the demented landscape of digital parenting content." --Anna Wiener, author of Uncanny Valley As an internet culture critic for The New York Times, Amanda Hess had built a reputation among readers as a sharp observer of the seductions and manipulations of online life. But when Hess discovered she was pregnant with her first child, she found herself unexpectedly rattled by a digital identity crisis of her own. In the summer of 2020, a routine ultrasound detected a mysterious abnormality in Hess's baby. Without hesitation, she reached for her phone, looking for answers. But rather than allaying her anxieties, her search sucked her into the destabilizing morass of the internet, and she was vulnerable--more than ever--to conspiracy, myth, judgment, commerce, and obsession. As Hess documents her escalating relationship with the digital world, she identifies how technologies act as portals to troubling ideologies, ethical conflicts, and existential questions, and she illuminates how the American traditions of eugenics, surveillance, and hyper-individualism are recycled through these shiny products for a new generation of parents and their children. At once funny, heartbreaking, and surreal, Second Life is a journey that spans a network of fertility apps, prenatal genetic tests, gender reveal videos, rare disease Facebook groups, "freebirth" influencers, and hospital reality shows. Hess confronts technology's distortions as they follow her through pregnancy and into her son's early life. The result is a critical record of our digital age that reveals the unspoken ways our lives are being fractured and reconstituted by technology.
About the Author
About the Author
AMANDA HESS is a critic at large for The New York Times. She writes about internet and pop culture for the Arts section and contributes regularly to The New York Times Magazine. Hess has worked as an internet columnist for Slate magazine, an editor at Good magazine, and an arts and nightlife columnist at the Washington City Paper, and has served as the second vice president for the NewsGuild of New York, a union representing media workers. She has also written for such publications as ESPN The Magazine, Wired, and Pacific Standard, where her feature on the online harassment of women won a National Magazine Award for Public Interest.
Critical Reviews
Critical Reviews
One of Time Magazine's Most Anticipated Books of 2025 - One of Lit Hub's Most Anticipated Books of 2025 "Second Life is not mainly a medical odyssey but, rather, a mordant contemplation of the many screens...that reflected and mediated Hess's experience of pregnancy and early motherhood....[It] is foremost a mash note to Hess's firstborn son...the book's charisma is rooted in its mood of droll astonishment....Despite the oracular hubris of the genetic-screening vanguard, the story a parent wants has only one primary source, one reliable narrator. You have to wait for him." --Jessica Winter, The New Yorker "Hess brings to her subject humility, curiosity, and a sly, self-aware wit. . . Sweeping and incisive. . . Fresh and complicated. . . A captivating, charged, and crucially provocative consideration of motherhood in modern America."
--Kirkus Reviews *starred review* "[A] fierce and funny debut memoir. . . .An astute document of pregnancy and parenting in the internet era. . . .Incisive and refreshing." --Publishers Weekly *starred review* "The story of a crisis-born odyssey, Second Life charts a new mother's descent into and re-emergence from the internet's 'pregnant underworld' with clarity, rigor, and tremendous wit. That such a deft a vivisector of our digital age should find herself lost in its churn of data-brokerage, commerce, and myth is a reminder of what we're all up against, and an engine of Amanda Hess's bracing and eloquent memoir."
--Michelle Orange, author of Pure Flame "Amanda Hess is that rare thing, the real deal. Second Life is unexpected, intellectually rigorous, funny, beautiful; and the wisdom is hard-won. A major debut from a profoundly talented writer."
--Claire Dederer, bestselling author of Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma
"Second Life is a treat....Hess takes us on fascinating detours into the history of fetal imaging...feminism's flirtation with eugenics, and the origins of what we now think of as 'natural childbirth'....A tender and often very funny memoir....Hess is a generous thinker, even when she's up against ideologies that repel her." --The Cut "There is no better chaperone than Amanda Hess through the strange world of surveillance, monetization, bureaucracy, and alternative medicine to which pregnant people and mothers are subjected."
--Max Read, editor of Read Max and former editor-in-chief of Gawker "Only Amanda Hess could step through the blue light looking glass of our phones and explore her specific--and our collective--anxiety, dissociation, data points, targeted ads, and apps; she emerges a more sensate, embodied, and sharper critic. The honesty of Second Life took my breath away."
--Angela Garbes, author of Essential Labor and Like a Mother "Second Life is an incredibly urgent and moving investigation into the business of pregnancy and motherhood in our divided, digital age...Occasionally harrowing, frequently hilarious, and deeply original."
--Thomas Page McBee, Lambda award-winning author of Amateur and Man Alive "Finally, a book about parenthood that acknowledges that the internet is the first place we go to navigate pregnancy. Hess doesn't demonize or valorize it but rather serves as a smart--and very amusing--guide to the good, the bad, and the truly weird of how we give birth today."
--Marisa Meltzer, author of the New York Times bestselling Glossy
--Kirkus Reviews *starred review* "[A] fierce and funny debut memoir. . . .An astute document of pregnancy and parenting in the internet era. . . .Incisive and refreshing." --Publishers Weekly *starred review* "The story of a crisis-born odyssey, Second Life charts a new mother's descent into and re-emergence from the internet's 'pregnant underworld' with clarity, rigor, and tremendous wit. That such a deft a vivisector of our digital age should find herself lost in its churn of data-brokerage, commerce, and myth is a reminder of what we're all up against, and an engine of Amanda Hess's bracing and eloquent memoir."
--Michelle Orange, author of Pure Flame "Amanda Hess is that rare thing, the real deal. Second Life is unexpected, intellectually rigorous, funny, beautiful; and the wisdom is hard-won. A major debut from a profoundly talented writer."
--Claire Dederer, bestselling author of Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma
"Second Life is a treat....Hess takes us on fascinating detours into the history of fetal imaging...feminism's flirtation with eugenics, and the origins of what we now think of as 'natural childbirth'....A tender and often very funny memoir....Hess is a generous thinker, even when she's up against ideologies that repel her." --The Cut "There is no better chaperone than Amanda Hess through the strange world of surveillance, monetization, bureaucracy, and alternative medicine to which pregnant people and mothers are subjected."
--Max Read, editor of Read Max and former editor-in-chief of Gawker "Only Amanda Hess could step through the blue light looking glass of our phones and explore her specific--and our collective--anxiety, dissociation, data points, targeted ads, and apps; she emerges a more sensate, embodied, and sharper critic. The honesty of Second Life took my breath away."
--Angela Garbes, author of Essential Labor and Like a Mother "Second Life is an incredibly urgent and moving investigation into the business of pregnancy and motherhood in our divided, digital age...Occasionally harrowing, frequently hilarious, and deeply original."
--Thomas Page McBee, Lambda award-winning author of Amateur and Man Alive "Finally, a book about parenthood that acknowledges that the internet is the first place we go to navigate pregnancy. Hess doesn't demonize or valorize it but rather serves as a smart--and very amusing--guide to the good, the bad, and the truly weird of how we give birth today."
--Marisa Meltzer, author of the New York Times bestselling Glossy
Publishing Information
Publishing Information
Publisher:
Doubleday Books
Pub date:
2025-05-06
Length:
272 pages
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