In Times of Grief...

Spouses, families, and other

soulmates - those of you

are usually the people,

in times of loss,

who experience grief with

more intensity, more passion,

more feelings, more emotions.

You go through moments

(sometimes days) of shock,

moments of anger and depression,

moments when you doubt

and ask, "Why, why, why?"

Finally, you will arrive at

some level of acceptance.

It often takes three months

to three years or longer,

but you will come to grips

with the loss in your own way,

on your own time,

through your own understanding.

Time of feelings and insights

will hit you when you least expect it -

like seeing a dandelion or a seashell,

walking on the beach,

sitting by a campfire,

riding a bicycle,

eating a piece of fudge,

watching a movie,

holding a child,

dancing and singing in the kitchen

while stirring macaroni and cheese.

Something - some event, some word, some sound,

some food, some clothing, some place,

some picture - will trigger a memory, and

you will feel the intense sadness,

separation and loss.

You will also feel the warmth

of a moment at that time

when the loved one is revisiting you.

Time will stand still, and

you will know that person is present.

Savor and embrace those moments dearly.

They are precious and so meaningful.

They are the life of the one

who has departed.

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