United States of Rejection: A Story of Love, Hate, and Hope

Alison Kinney

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United States of Rejection: A Story of Love, Hate, and Hope

United States of Rejection: A Story of Love, Hate, and Hope

Alison Kinney

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This is a love-hate story about personal and political relationships in the United States, told through the intimate stories of both the rejectors and the rejected: lovers, families, neighbors, and a nation and its people. Although we're taught not to care about others' opinions, rejection always hurts, and it hurts some people a lot more than others. To prove it, this book marshals contemporary neuroscience, the Founding Fathers' rejection advice, and four centuries of personal narratives, many of them hilarious, many more heartbreaking. These rejection and acceptance stories span loving and disastrous American first encounters, soldiers and dancers rejected on front lines and chorus lines, playground bullies invoked before the Senate, and generations of lovers and patriots battling or swiping right to defend their loved ones and their country.

Abraham Lincoln wrote, "The true rule, in determining to embrace, or reject any thing, is not whether it have any evil in it; but whether it have more evil, than of good." But rejection is often unjust, often deserved, and unusually complicated, depending on who's rejecting whom and why.

In laboratories, diaries, self-help manuals, auditions, lawsuits, and wars, we find models for "getting past" rejections, not just through personal resilience, but also through creating accountability and justice. United States of Rejection begins with heartbreak and ends with hope: an urgent self-improvement program for changing our relationships and the future of our messy nation.

About the Author

ALISON KINNEY is assistant professor of writing (nonfiction) at Eugene Lang College, The New School. She is the author of the books Hood and Avidly Reads Opera. Her writing on culture, history, science, and social justice has appeared in many publications, online or in print, including The New Yorker, The Paris Review Daily, Lapham's Quarterly, The New York Times, The Guardian, Harper's, and Gay Magazine. She lives and writes in Brooklyn, New York.

Critical Reviews

Alison Kinney's United States of Rejection is a brilliant, substantial work of social criticism. With disarming wit, she offers insight on the many ways that American culture and history have been shaped by messy feelings. The book is a fascinating take on the complex motivations that can drive the political discourse. It gave me a new perspective and feeling of genuine hope.--Wendy S. Walters "author of Troy, Michigan and Longer I Wait, More You Love Me"

In United States of Rejection, a fascinating and impeccably researched book, Alison Kinney makes a thoroughly convincing argument for how rejection has shaped the country's past and present-and how it can redefine the future. Rejection is the throughline that connects power dynamics and inequality with the potential for transformation through community building and a collective refusal to accept the status quo. 'Our nation's standards . . . have never been fixed, ' Kinney writes. Change is always possible. This book is a testament to that fact.--Michele Filgate "editor of What My Father and I Don't Talk About"

Alison Kinney brilliantly rejects simplistic empowerment narratives and useless pity. By time traveling through history, offering interviews, and even sharing the personal, we land in a place that's firmly rooted in our world and yet otherworldly in its compassion.--Steve Fellner "author of Eating Lightbulbs"

The trick that Alison Kinney manages to pull off throughout United States of Rejection is tacking around the idea of rejection, both personal and universal, and making a book-length argument about rejection and America. Light and often funny, Kinney's narrative voice in this book is great: It's conversational without being glib and scholarly without being dull. Playful and serious at once, this is the best kind of creative scholarship: Everything in these pages takes on emotional resonance and layered meaning. Dazzling, really!--Ander Monson "author of Predator: A Memoir, a Movie, an Obsession"

United States of Rejection is a truly fascinating book with interesting methods and a rich array of case studies. Alison Kinney's wide expertise and stylistic savviness is one that readers need.--Marcos Gonsalez "author of Pedro's Theory: Reimagining the Promised Land"

a thought-provoking . . . take on a universal phenomenon-- "Publishers Weekly"

Publishing Information

Publisher: University of Georgia Press
Pub date: 2026-05-01
Length: 352 pages

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